{"id":384,"date":"2013-11-19T02:32:41","date_gmt":"2013-11-19T02:32:41","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/blogs.pugetsound.edu\/reslife\/?p=384"},"modified":"2014-01-27T18:29:25","modified_gmt":"2014-01-27T18:29:25","slug":"conflict-opportunity-for-growth","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/blogs.pugetsound.edu\/reslife\/2013\/11\/19\/conflict-opportunity-for-growth\/","title":{"rendered":"Conflict = Opportunity for Growth!"},"content":{"rendered":"

Written by Matt Jarrell<\/a>, Resident Director<\/em><\/p>\n

As we anxiously count down the days until Thanksgiving break, some of us are looking forward to a home cooked meal.\u00a0 Or maxing out our credit cards during black Friday.\u00a0 Some students are just looking forward to some personal space away from their roommate(s).\u00a0 It\u2019s November and the honeymoon period is officially over.\u00a0 At first you thought it was cute how your roommate chewed her food.\u00a0 Now when you hear it, you want to blend her food for her and spoon it to her yourself.\u00a0 It\u2019s funny how that transition happens overnight, and yet, most students want to avoid conflict until it goes away.\u00a0 Or someone implodes.\u00a0 Whichever happens first.\u00a0 Ha.<\/p>\n

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Luckily, living in the Residence Halls at Puget Sound, our goal is for students to engage with diverse identities and perspectives and learn to advocate for their needs.\u00a0 Conflict is a natural, and exciting, part of the process!\u00a0 Here are some tips and tricks to conflict management:<\/p>\n

Benefits of Conflict<\/b>
\nConflict is a GOOD thing!\u00a0 Conflict prevents stagnation, stimulates creative problem solving, empowers change and contributes to self-assessment and skill development. Conflict is an opportunity for growth!
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\nThe Three Types of Conflict<\/b>
\nConflict can typically be broken into three categories: Resources, Needs or Values<\/i><\/b>.\u00a0 A conflict over resources is when the heart of the conflict is about something tangible.\u00a0 EX: Two friends fighting over who gets to ride front seat.<\/i>\u00a0 A needs based conflict is when two individuals have different needs.\u00a0 EX:\u00a0 One person needs to go to bed while another person needs to study.<\/i>\u00a0 Finally, a values based conflict is when people who have different principles collide.\u00a0 EX: An argument over politics where two people have different values on subjects.<\/i><\/p>\n

Fight. Flight.\u00a0 Freeze<\/b>
\nWhen a conflict arises, the most typical responses are to: FIGHT, FLIGHT, or FREEZE.\u00a0 Some people choose to face conflict head on, while others will run to the mountains to avoid it.\u00a0 Others will just freeze up or ignore what\u2019s going on.\u00a0 Which is your typical way of reacting to conflict?<\/p>\n

What to Consider During Negotiation<\/b>
\nWhen trying to develop a solution or approaching someone about a conflict, there are three general categories to consider:\u00a0perceptions, emotions and communication<\/b>.\u00a0 Try to ask yourself the following questions:\u00a0What could the other person perceive?\u00a0 How does this make me feel?\u00a0 How does this make the other person feel?\u00a0 What is the best way to communicate with them about this conflict?<\/i>\u00a0key to negotiation is basic acceptance of one another.\u00a0 You will get far quickly when both parties have learned to accept one another.<\/em><\/p>\n

Acceptance<\/b>
\nThe key to negotiation is basic acceptance of one another.\u00a0 You will get far quickly when both parties have learned to accept one another.<\/p>\n

When in doubt, you have RAs, RCCs and GHCs to help navigate you through a conflict.\u00a0 In this day in age, it\u2019s easy to hide from conflict behind text messages or social media.\u00a0 With the help of our ResLife staff, you will grow leaps and bounds in your confidence of conflict management!\u00a0 I challenge you to take this opportunity to deal with any conflict you may have before you leave for Thanksgiving.\u00a0 Or if all else fails, bring back a piece of pie to break the ice and have a conversation when you get back.\u00a0 Pie heals all.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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